Day 2: Noticing our Patterns
Alice's Adventures in Wonderland and the search for the hidden patterns that drive us
In Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland (1865), Lewis Carroll invites us into a world where nothing quite makes sense.
Alice falls down a rabbit hole and tumbles into a place full of shifting rules, strange logic, and curious contradictions. One moment she’s too large to fit in the room. The next, she’s too small to reach the key.
Time bends.
Logic twists.
Nothing follows the rules she thought she knew.
“Curiouser and curiouser,” Alice said, for she was so much surprised, that for the moment she quite forgot how to speak good English.”
Yesterday, you emptied your mind into a list.
You gave all the ideas, obligations, saved drafts, and scattered to-do’s a place to land. And now they’re no longer swirling in your head — you can actually see them on the page.
But before we move forward, let’s do something a bit different: Let’s go through the looking glass and look at what patterns, fears, or beliefs have led us here?
Because if you look closely — you might notice how upside-down some of your thinking has become.
I’m afraid that if I share this idea, everyone will see it.
I’m also afraid that no one will care.
I’m afraid my idea is too safe — it’s been done before.
But also: too radical — it might be too much.
Too big.
Too small.
Too early.
Too late.
Do you want to stand out — or to fit in?
You want to embrace the imperfections… but you want to get it just right.
Which is it?
That’s the Wonderland of it all.
When we don’t slow down to examine what’s really going on underneath, we try to hold two impossible truths at once — and then wonder why we feel stuck.
Today isn’t about fixing.
It’s about noticing.
We live inside our patterns for so long, we forget we’re following them. But often, hidden patterns are driving us:
Fear of missing out
Perfectionism in disguise
Wanting to keep up
Trying to prove you belong
Building things for a version of yourself that doesn’t exist anymore
Once you see the pattern, you can gently decide whether it’s worth carrying forward.
Day 2:
Look over your list from yesterday. Don’t judge it. Just observe.
And ask yourself:
Am I trying to do too much at once?
How many of these mental to-do’s are about chasing approval, or following trends?
Which ideas genuinely excite me?
Which feel heavy, draining, or disconnected from my true goals?
What does this list reveal about what I really want to build?
You’re already complete.
You don’t need to juggle all these extra things to prove your worth. You don’t need to chase every opportunity.
Many of the things on your list might have felt like ‘the missing piece’ when you took them in. But today, you’re starting to see what’s truly aligned…
and what’s just clutter.
Note:
Tomorrow, we’ll begin clearing space.
It’s not always easy to see our own patterns. If you noticed even one pattern today — that’s powerful. I’d love to hear if this helped. Let me know in the comments.
